Happy New Year! The holiday season in the McCollum house was
a quiet one this year. It was our first
Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years in Ohio where we were far from family. What it brought us was some great time to
bond and reflect on all that we have and all that we are truly thankful
for. This past year was full of change
and adventure that we had not anticipated.
We started talking about possibly moving to
move to Ohio in February last year then officially made the decision in March
and moved the end of May. Saying goodbye
to family and friends that feel like family was super difficult for all of
us. The reality of the move settled in
when we realized that this house is pretty quiet without all of our friends
coming and going constantly, and we miss that.
The girls have mastered the art of long distance friendships and still
talk to their Kansas friends every day while they have also made some new ones
in Ohio.
Charley and I have settled into being
parents of 3 youth that are now more independent than ever before since Nikki
started driving them everywhere. She has
been wonderful at picking up her sisters after school and getting them to where
they need to be, grocery shopping on her way home from her college classes, and
even cooks dinner a lot. The real bonus
was that she also took her sisters Christmas shopping without us so they were
able to buy presents that we didn’t see first.
It was so great to see the sweet and thoughtful things that they
selected on Christmas morning. My
favorite was the solid bright pink tie that Sierra bought for Charley because it
is her favorite color. He wore it to
church today because he is awesome at being a dad.
Over the past 2 weeks with the girls home
from school and Charley and I having some extra days at home with them, we have
all come to realize that while this move was incredibly hard and has changed
our normal drastically, it has also been a great blessing to each of us. LaGrange, Ohio is where we are meant to be (not
just because we have some pretty awesome neighbors)! The girls, having less friend distractions,
have spent a lot more time together and have become better friends. They have had to step outside of their
comfort zones to meet new people, but have been blessed with good friends
because of it. We have all enjoyed more
time together as a family, and we needed that.
New Year came and went quickly, tomorrow we
settle back in to the normal work and school schedule for everyone. With all of the extra time at home, I should
feel relaxed and prepared, but as of this morning I was still feeling rushed
and anxious. The Christmas decorations
are not put away, I start traveling again on Tuesday and I still had not taken
the time to reflect on last year and mentally prepare for 2016. One of the things that I normally do is try
to write some goals for the year. I
really struggled with that this year since the last couple of years have not
gone nearly as I planned them and I do NOT like to start something and not
finish it. I couldn’t really think of
anything that felt right, until today.
As the girls and I were getting ready to
leave for church, I reminded them that we were not going to play on phones during church. Trying to set a good example, I put my phone
away and didn’t look at it until Sunday school time. That is when I realized I had a
text message from the Relief Society President saying that she was sick and not
able to come and teach the lesson today.
I had 45 minutes to prepare a 40 minute lesson on 30 pages of material I
had not read. If I had not chosen today as
the day to not use my phone I would have had another hour to
prepare. Prayers are answered, we all
survived my last minute lesson and I stumbled upon the perfect goal in the
process. The McCollum family goals for
the year will be this quote from President Howard W. Hunter:
“…Mend a quarrel. Seek out a forgotten friend. Dismiss suspicion
and replace it with trust. Write a letter. Give a soft answer. Encourage youth.
Manifest your loyalty in word and deed. Keep a promise. Forgo a grudge. Forgive
an enemy. Apologize. Try to understand. Examine your demands on others. Think
first of someone else. Be kind. Be gentle. Laugh a little more. Express your
gratitude. Welcome a stranger. Gladden the heart of a child. Take pleasure in
the beauty and wonder of the earth. Speak your love and then speak it again.”
Now with the goals written, one class
dropped (it was dumb to think I could do 3 at once), and family home evening
plans to de-Christmas the house we are ready to make this year awesome!
Happy New Year to all our friends and
family!